I’ve read with great interest the recent revelations of sexual abuse and accusations of rape against Harvey Weinstein. While I have never personally met Harvey Weinstein, I have worked in both the adult and mainstream industries, and I think I may have a somewhat unique perspective on what’s happening at the moment — particularly when you throw into the mix the recent banning of Ron Jeremy by the Exxxotica Expo. The first of what I hope are many such actions.
I think the differences between what has recently happened around the allegations about each of these men is more informative than the similarities. And I want to explore those differences here.
I’ve read story after story of women in Hollywood with allegations about Harvey Weinstein who kept silent for fear of the impact going public with those allegations would have on their careers. Many of these women received financial settlements to keep what happened private. Even though it seems his sexual abuse was widely known within the mainstream Hollywood industry, it seems this man was allowed to continue being a sexual predator for decades by repeatedly buying the silence of his victims. Very few if any ever spoke publicly. And so the story goes, the abuse rolled on.
And now the “If only” parade of what ifs. What if someone had been bold enough, brave enough, strong enough? What if just one woman who was a victim of Harvey Weinstein’s sexual abuse stood in front of the microphone and said what everyone in Hollywood already seemed to know? How many women would have been saved from their own experience of abuse by this man? We’ll never know, but the question itself raises another interesting question. And that’s the real question I’d like to explore.
Is the definition of “sexual abuse” different depending on whom the victim is? Should it be? I think if you ask most people that simple question, without any context, the answer would be “Of course not.” Sexual abuse is sexual abuse! Rape is rape! What a stupid question, right? Not so fast…
And here is where the similarities between the allegations against Ron Jeremy and Harvey Weinstein come into play, and more importantly, the differences. Each have now been accused of sexual abuse. The accusations are now just finding the real light of day when it comes to Harvey Weinstein, but the same cannot be said of Ron Jeremy. My accusations against Ron Jeremy go back to the 1980’s. And they were very public. I won’t rehash them here as they are well documented. Look them up. And they were met with … crickets. No one seemed to care. Nothing happened.